This is an opinion: “I believe that this idea is right but I know that others may not agree with me and I respect their own opinions.”
This is an insult: “I believe your idea sucks and mine is better.”
An opinion can still hurt but regardless, you have to be ready to take ownership over it. When the hurt is intentional, that’s when it turns into insult and things turn personal.
These are my two cents for the day.
Like…um….I’ve been reading too much BL ‘cz of procrastination…and then I remembered that time Michael lifted his shirt to show his nipples and……I’m so sorry.
I’m sorry Phil…I drew your lemonbutt for you.
THAT WAS QUICK!!
Phil Lester approved.
Recently someone sent an ask on my sorta dead Ask Roxy! blog and it was along the lines of:
This makes me kind of sad. That’s just taking Roxy’s love for him for granted. I think that is the main thing here is that in the first place, Dirk being “gay” isn’t even a factor. I put quotes because it’s a whole ‘nother story for us to discuss.
Roxy fell in love with Dirk because he is Dirk, however through the years that she kept on flirting with him and showering him with affection - he just side-stepped away from all that. By then, Roxy must be feeling kind of pathetic that no matter what she does, he will never return the feelings for her. Deep in her heart, she still had that tiny hope, yet barely visible, that she might still have a chance on him if only she pursued harder. The only result she had was Dirk avoiding it even further.
After she learned that Dirk had his sights on Jake. It wasn’t distress, it wasn’t “dang hes gay now whut” that she felt - it was more of a realization that she was never his first choice and that she should support his happiness instead. I am not sure if any of you can relate to this, but I do. And I know that if I were in Roxy’s position during that time, I would be feeling pretty damn down in the dumps - not because she learned that Dirk was “gay”, but because he likes another person and not her. Yet, being the supportive friend that she is, she still lent him her help anyways like a fool. And even though she slyly urged Jane to work on her own romance with Jake, I can assure you that her intentions were good - even if a small portion of it was out of her own selfish thinking. It didn’t work out anyways. When Dirk and Jake hooked up, Roxy was there for everyone - always putting her own needs and wants for last.
So anon, even if Dirk wasn’t “gay” and, let’s just say, fell in love with Jane instead - it wouldn’t change a damn thing. Roxy still would’ve been heartbroken and she still would’ve supported him in his relationship. That moment where she called him “gay” was only told out of frustration and anger towards herself. She wanted to put a blame on something. Asking Roxy what she would do if Dirk wasn’t “gay” is simply implying that you’re urging her to illicit Dirk into an affair - completely ignoring her best friends’ positions and disrespecting them - and I don’t think that is how Roxy’s character works.
This rant doesn’t only target DirkRoxy shippers but for everyone. Conceptualizing Dirk’s character as only being “gay” is utter bullshit because he is much more than that. Simplifying Roxy’s frustration towards her heartbreak and blaming it on “Dirk being gay” is also bullshit. Sure, her feelings might not have been reciprocated, but one thing for sure is that both of them love each other - certainly not in a shallow and superficial manner - and it’s too bad for you if you missed that. Honestly, …I am kind of disappointed in you anon.
Now, let’s all sip some tea and continue with your blogging.